Learning Your Partner's Love Language — Building Stronger Relationships

I've been exposed to romance and relationships at an early age. It's been a long trial and error for me, and I believe for 90% of people as well. I've come to believe that you can learn everything about relationships once you enter them — that it doesn't matter whether you fully know the person already or not. Because you have a lifetime to know them, right? 

Well, that's not always the case. Relationships tend to crumble upon piles and piles of misunderstanding left untangled. When our love language is different from our partner and we're not aware of it, appreciation goes a long way. I'm saying this from experience. I've had partners who have never met my emotional needs because they speak another love language that I was too ignorant and innocent to see. 

To better understand this, I'll give you an example. Your love language could be words of affirmation. But your partner's love language is acts of service. So when you look for reassurance from your partner through words, they'd rather show it by preparing you a meal or helping you clean your room. 

This isn't always the case, but we tend to overlook what our partner does for us because we were expecting a different reply. 

After four months of being single and exploring the dating world, I learned how important it was to find someone with the same wavelength as yours. Luckily enough, I found a partner who shares my love languages. I never have to translate my feelings or adjust my emotional capacity because he easily understands it, and vice versa. 

For those of you who are in the midst of confusion because you feel like your partner doesn't love you anymore, look for the little things. Do they give you gifts? Do they do errands for you even if it doesn't fit in their schedule? Do they tell you they love you so much? Do they love holding your hand, or just squeezing your arm? Or do they love spending quality time with you? 

Sometimes, when our partners get mad or sad over little things, we see them as petty. What's the big deal, right? But for them, it is a big deal. They're not being mad at you for nothing. They're being mad at you because you're not filling in their emotional needs. Of course, this is a give and take. Both parties should know how to make their partners feel appreciated.

If you love your partner, it wouldn't be too hard to learn their love language. Be open, be honest, be vulnerable. There's nothing wrong with saying the cheesy stuff to your partner. Especially when you're going to tie the know with them in the future! :) (No pressure, just enjoy each other's company. Hehehe)

And take note, love languages apply to all relationships. That's why sometimes, our parents' way of saying I'M SORRY and I LOVE YOU is through cooking us our favorite meals. :)

If you've read the whole thing until the end, THANK YOU FOR READING MY BLOG! It's been a while since I found my soul to write again. So I appreciate you a lot! 

Love,

Sam

P.S Know your love language here: The 5 Love Languages - Quiz

About the Author

Hi! I'm Sam, a lazy occasional blogger, and graphics designer from Bicol, Philippines. I'm trying to write again and make it back to the blogging world and share my passion for words and arts. 

You can follow me on Instagram @dalhaetbit or on my Facebook page, The Purpose Driven Gal.

I'll do my best to be active again and share whatever useful stuff I can for y'all! Thank you!